At the time of marriage you are feeling only one happiness. Because you know it will be a new life, colorful events, beautiful dresses and you will become Mr. or Mrs. Everyone gives you all kinds of advice. Booking the venue, talking to the makeup artist, it’s all so exciting that you forget that you and your partner will be spending a lifetime together.
Sharing your life with someone new brings its own challenges, requiring commitment, patience and respect. Marriage is not only based on love and respect but both have to work hard to make it successful.
Here are some good steps that can be taken to make married life easier and more beautiful.
Importance of communication:
As our mother used to say, “Son, if there is a problem, tell the doctor. The doctor will not be inspired to know what is wrong with you.”
You should be comfortable with each other, without fear of rejection.
You and your partner will face various conflicts and problems with each other but it is important that you know that they cannot read your heart. It would be better if you take the path of communication among yourselves that what is bothering you? Are you angry with them about something? Are you hurt? Is the limit crossed?
Silence is not a good solution to any problem but it is a poison for love and trust. Be honest about the ground rules of your life.
You should express your thoughts in the most polite manner and without ego in between. Talking to each other is the solution to the problem and the means to understand each other better.
So talk, talk and talk anything. They are your husband/wife, they should know everything you feel and both should listen to each other with an open heart.
Mutual Respect:
You feel loved and respected when your opinion is listened to with attention, love and respect.
When you are not reprimanded for thinking a certain way and you are not made to feel worthless.
It is generally assumed that a woman’s opinion is not important, and for a woman a man is a source of income and money to spend where and how she wants.
While this thinking has a very negative effect on your good marital relationship, both roles are very important. In a good married life, there is a great need to show the importance of the opinion of both and to make them feel accepted.
Husband and wife dress each other:
As in the Holy Qur’an, husband and wife are called each other’s clothes, which means that there is no third thing between the clothes and the person. Clothing protects from hot and cold weather. It covers the defects of his body and clothing gives him self-confidence.
These qualities are also required in husband and wife for a good married life. To encourage each other in good and bad situations.
Covering each other’s flaws. All this makes your relationship strong and stable.
Make it your goal to make marriage feel like the safest place in the world.”
Greg Smalley
A safe place for couples is each other’s presence where you are who you really are. Your husband should be able to feel as comfortable with you as you feel safe and calm with him. Feeling safe, understood, comforted, emotionally supported and loved is the secret to a secure marriage.
For a girl, marriage means that you leave a house and move in with your husband. She leaves her family, her safe place, the love and compassion of her parents. A husband’s job is to provide the same love, sense of appreciation and security that she once felt with her family.
A husband’s safe place is his wife, where he can confide in her about his desires because in our society men tend to keep their feelings to themselves. A wife should have such a relationship with her husband that she can open up to without any fear.
Both hide each other’s faults and help to remove the flaws and deficiencies and do not advertise their own words. And both become a shield for each other.
Be thankful for:
Your husband is working hard to keep the house prosperous, beautiful and safe. It is very important to recognize his effort and show your gratitude. It’s great to hear someone appreciate your effort on anything. It makes you feel your importance. Similarly, appreciating your wife’s work and hard work at home is very important for a good married life.
With confidence:
It is important to have trust in each other in married life.
Because when you commit to this relationship, it means giving yourself to each other.
Where there is trust in each other, only then will the husband and wife in a house be allowed to make decisions in their own sphere and together. Because both know and understand that their benefits and losses are shared.
Trust protects against major conflicts. Because when you trust your husband or wife, no third party can turn you against each other. In this society and joint families, there are many people who can create misunderstandings between you.
A good and successful married life can be maintained only by trusting each other.
Make time for your spouse:
You can easily get caught up in your busy life, children, offices, work and household responsibilities etc. and all these can take up all your time. But one thing to remember is that as a family grows, your children grow up and they will move on. But you and your husband are forever bound to each other. Love each other, give each other time and provide a happy safe future.
Learn to forgive yourself:
You both are human and can make mistakes, in fact, humans make mistakes and learn from them.
We should forgive each other’s mistakes. It is also important to point out the mistakes. But don’t use bad language or words, but talk with compassion and love.
In the same way, when dealing with forgiveness or forgiveness from one another, do not insult or use names again and again.
If someone makes a mistake, make sure you talk to them lovingly, without feeling superior or arrogant. It saves a lot of quarrels and keeps your heart soft. Listening is very important, so listen to them and help them understand the problem.
Keep your issues safe between the two:
You and your husband will have differences, quarrels and problems. Being in a joint family, you are in front of every family member who might be reading your face all the time. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’ve had a fight. It is always better to settle it in your room or house and not let anyone criticize it.
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